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Essential Wedding Party Duties: A Guide for the Big Day
Being a member of the wedding party goes beyond matching outfits. It’s an honor that also comes with great responsibility — yes, totally referenced Spider-Man lol. Ok but seriously, we’re gonna hit you with some duties every wedding party member should consider to help the couple feel supported on the day of their wedding. Let’s dive in!
1. For the Fashionista of the Group: Helping Find Accessory Options for the Squad
One of the most enjoyable parts is helping pick out the perfect accessories. This includes choosing jewelry, hairpieces, veils, and other additions that compliment the dresses/outfits and overall vibe of the day. Whether it’s coordinating with a boutique or finding the right personalized details like monogrammed robes or fun statement earrings, your help in selecting these items ensures everyone looks their best.
2. For the Type A/ Virgo friend of the Group: Timeline for Day-of Makeup
This is where my babes that are all things organized to shine. You would be the perfect point person to work closely with the bride and the makeup artist to establish a timeline for makeup on the wedding day. This includes setting up a schedule for the bride, bridal party, and any other key players. Ensure everyone has their designated time slot, and keep things running on schedule so that there’s no rush and no one feels stressed. Being the point person for this will allow the bride to relax and enjoy getting pampered and prepped for the big day.
3. For the Designated “Best Man” of the Group: Helping with Groomsman Attire
We put quotes around Best Man because a couple might decide to appoint a Best Woman or someone else for their right hand — we’re here for it all. While the bride is preparing, don’t forget the groom and his groomsmen. Be available to help ensure that everyone’s attire is ready, fitted, and looks great. This could mean checking that everyone’s ties are knotted correctly, that there are no last-minute adjustments needed, or that pocket squares and cufflinks are in place. A little assistance here goes a long way in ensuring the groom’s side is also well-prepped and ready for photos.
4. For the Foodie of the Group: Coordinate Breakfast or Lunch Day-of
If you’re the type that is always hunting for the next cool coffee shop or the person your friends also ask for good lunch recs, this could be the best task for you. The morning of the wedding can be hectic, so planning a meal or snacks for the wedding party is essential. This not only helps keep everyone energized and in good spirits but also ensures no one feels hangry before the ceremony. Whether you arrange for a catered brunch, deliver breakfast to the suite, or set up a light buffet, having food on hand is a must.
5. For the Wrangler: The Loud Mouth to Get Things Done
As the loud mouthed member of the wedding party, you become the “wrangler”aka the go-to person for making sure things run smoothly on the big day. From getting people to be in the right place at the right time to managing last-minute details, it’s your job to keep things moving. Be proactive, confident, and a little loud if needed to herd everyone into place. A calm yet assertive presence helps keep nerves in check and ensures that the schedule stays on track. You got this.
6. For the One that Has an Eye for Detail: Bathroom Baskets
A thoughtful touch that’s often overlooked is the creation of bathroom baskets for guests. These should include essentials like mini deodorants, hairspray, bobby pins, mints, and hand sanitizer. Having these items available is a game-changer for anyone who needs a quick freshen-up during the day. Consider adding a small note with a thank you from the couple or a wish for a great day—it’s a simple, thoughtful touch that shows attention to detail.
7. For the DJ of the Group: Make a Day-of Playlist
A fun way to keep the energy up while everyone is getting ready is to have a playlist that sets the mood. Work with the bride or groom to curate a mix of their favorite songs, upbeat hits, and relaxed tunes to play in the background as everyone prepares. Music is magic and will be key to keep the vibe high.
Last Thoughts:
You were picked by the couple to stand next to them on one of the biggest days of their lives. While they might not ask for it, offer a hand to help make their day smoother and lighter. You’d be surprised how even a quick curated playlist can bring a different energy to the day as you all get ready together and jam out to Chappell Roan’s newest hit munching on a cucumber sandwich. Forreal forreal.
Happy helping babes.
Salud (cheers),
Cejay + Brian
